You’ve been with your partner for a few years, you’ve moved in together, gotten to know all their weird habits, dealt with their moods and decided that you want to spend the rest of your life with them. If you thought that was a milestone, just wait till you finish dealing with the wedding plans, and costs (yikes) and you’re happily resting on a beach, enjoying your honeymoon- you’ll probably sleep the whole week!
So what goes into planning and wedding and why does it take so damn long? Well for starters you have to make your guest list, decide on the invitations and then send them out with enough notice for all your guests to start planning.
Making a guest list can be tricky, especially if you’re hosting a small wedding. It means having to make cuts and that can be tough. A good start might be ruling out groups of people, like work colleagues (if they’re not close friends).
The next part is choosing the venue. For some weddings there might only be one venue, for others multiple. Couples hosting blowout weddings often like to have a party the night before their wedding and a brunch the day after- these events are usually limited to family and out of town guests. It makes more of a weekend event out of it for people travelling from abroad. Moreover, it’s a chance for guests to get to know each other before the wedding, and then regroup together after everything is over.
A church or religious institution is a popular place to host the ceremony portion of a wedding, and some even have big rooms in which guests are free to host the dinner and dancing portion of the night. Other popular choices include town halls, castles, villas, or private homes. If you’re having your wedding in your private home or on a rented plot of land, you’ll probably opt to host it under a large canopy known as a marquee. Marquees can be absolutely gorgeous and usually have a very enchanting feel. Moreover, they aren’t permanent and therefore there’s no need to worry about destroying the interior of a rented building or worse yet your own home.
After deciding on your guest list and where you’re going to host the big day, you still have to make decisions about food, flowers, bridesmaids, groomsmen, honeymoon, music and more. Now you see why people start planning a year ahead!